Things have been happening at lightening speed and your meek little human always struggles to stay adrift in the waves. Dropped by to catch a short breath. Hi, hello fellow souls trapped in perishable carriers.
How do optimistic people navigate their way through setbacks? Their blinding light pierces through my comfortably dark, stormy sky and I quickly shut it out. I’ve never been fond of optimistic people. What makes them see the world in such glory and light? There’s one pattern though – highly optimistic people have a strong foundation to fall back to.
Imagine climbing a huge, steep mountain. Some climb it knowing that they might fall to their death any second, so they measure and calculate each step, slow and trembling, trudging onwards.
Others take that same path, but with a harness. There is no falling & crashing for them.
Optimists come from a place of love and support.
Do you ever just briefly chance upon a life you’d like to have or a moment you’d like to live but it’s so far from where or who you are that you crumble from the weight of wanting something so painfully simple, but not having it. I feel such yearning when I see coffee shops in Paris, trains snaking their way through swiss highlands or an expanse of Irish mountains on Instagram.
How do we stop wanting? Does the yearning gradually subside? Or do we stop wishing as we grow old? Or do our lofty wishes get replaced with simple things?
‘Monks say that shedding desire is the key to a happy life. Naval says that whatever you deny yourself will end up becoming your prison.’ What is one supposed to do?
I highly recommend Naval’s Podcast on Spotify, the man talks a lot of sense without being unrealistic.
I have been obsessed with Ocean Vuong. Have been listening to him talk and momentarily live through what readers call ‘a happy, painful daze.’
Something he said in an interview struck me like lightning ‘when you have so little of something, that you have to imagine it.’ As someone who’s been daydreaming since childhood to cope with life, this hurt a lot.
Sometime back I was talking to my best friend. After cracking a few lame jokes around 3am, she suddenly goes quiet for 30 seconds, then blurts ‘I don’t remember who I used to be before 2020.’ Have you felt that way too?
I finished this unbelievably fulfilling show called Be Melodramatic. Story of three friends in their 30s who, after taking different career paths navigate through life and discover themselves together. A sentence made me pause the show and stare at the screen blankly.
‘People try to be strong because they want to collapse. They just do it until they think breaking down a bit wouldn’t be a problem for anyone.’
I’ll add: they bargain the persistence of their strength in exchange for a small window to rest. It’s the only way they’ll ever feel they deserve it, without becoming a burden to anyone. They’re an overly inflated balloon, always dodging the pin just in time.
I wish we lived in a world where we didn’t need to prove our worth to survive. I wish just being here was enough.
If you’ve been following the drift of what I’ve been writing here, you must know I’m a believer of telling people you care about – that they’re doing well. That you’re proud of them and their potential is infinite. Here’s Kat Cole echoing something similar in her Podcast ‘The Power of Possible.’
“I’ve learned that when I see people for their potential and their possibilities, that they seem to live up to that more quickly than when they interact with others. The frequency that I’m let down is so low compared to the frequency that I’m proven right in people’s potential. And so it just feels like this tax, it’s like a single-digit percentage tax that is a small price to pay for getting all the upside that comes from looking at people as the great things that they are and the possibilities that they have in front of them.”
Final thought: ‘I have such high hopes for you‘ should always be followed by ‘but you shouldn’t feel burdened, just do what makes you happy and proud. It’s your life.’