A long time back I read a book by John Green called ‘Looking For Alaska.”
And I even wrote this blog post approximately a year back, but I somehow felt it should be posted again.
“He was shaken by the overwhelming revelation that the headlong race between his misfortunes and his dreams was at that moment reaching the finish line. The rest was darkness, ‘Damn it,’ he sighed. ‘How will I ever get out of this labyrinth!”
― Gabriel García Márquez, The General in His Labyrinth
This quote is presented by one of the protagonists in the book around whom the story revolves, Alaska Young. Throughout the book at various intervals, the absolutely admirable author, John Green has raised the above question, but not answered it.
As if giving his readers plenty of chances to figure it out for themselves. But each time (as in my case) you’re averted in a more darker tunnel of intrigue and fascination. The more I tried to figure it out, the more confused I became. I happened to find myself diving into this ocean of reverie, from where I almost find it impossible to escape.
So what is the way out of this Labyrinth of Suffering?
How do we get out of this maze?
Death, my friend is certainly not the answer.
“The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.”
I’ve never believed in forgiveness. It might sound harsh and very stubborn of me but second chances are not my cup of tea. It’s rather unfortunate of me to think that people are never sorry for their actions, they’re usually sorry that they got caught.
But again, it’s completely up to your own sweet discretion whether or not you choose to forgive someone who you think deserves a second chance.
But more importantly, the quote also implies on learning to forgive yourself. Sometimes you get so caught up in this cobweb that you forget that you’re allowed to make mistakes too. And out of all the people in the world the one person whose forgiveness you need the most is yourself. You cannot afford to brood over and punish yourself for every mistake you made. Because if you don’t absolve yourself from any of your blunder, it’s going to slowly and slowly eat you up and somehow that guilt will always trouble you.
So forgive your soul and free yourself from the shackles. So that when you approach the epilogue of your life, you have one hell of a speech to make. Learn to love every flaw within you. We’re humans, we’re designed to make mistakes and then learn from them.
But the wisdom lies in forgiveness and moving on and sparing yourself the pain and self-loathing. Because it is only when you forgive, you open the doors to the escape from this maze. This is what Mr. Green tried to infer.
“There are so many of us who will have to live with things done and things left undone. Things that did not go right, things that seemed okay at the time because we could not see the future. If only we could see the endless string of consequences that result from our smallest actions.”