Being the Younger Sibling

I’ve had some really busy 10 days. I became an aunt recently, which sounds too mature for my age, but yeah, I did. My cousin was in town with the 4 month old adorable little baby boy and I spent some quality time trying to make him laugh (I did make him laugh-I’m a very cool aunt.)

In these 10 days I spent a lot of time with my entire family, which is rare. Not because we’re secluded pirates living on some lone island, but because of my dad’s job, we kept on moving from places to places, so I never really had a ‘Joint Family.’ As a result I really look forward and enjoy these family gatherings.

Now obviously, dear readers, as you all know, I’m a very deep thinker. Even my family’s heavy visit didn’t stop my mind from pondering.

So the reason why I’ve written the above is, when it comes to family, I want to talk about what it’s like being the youngest one, yep that’s me.

As the normal stereotype goes, the youngest ones in the family are deemed as fragile little doves that aren’t supposed to do the tedious or heavy tasks in the family. They’re meant for the tough Elder Brothers and Sisters. It’s even worse when you’re also a girl. Again, me.

Even though there are several advantages to being the younger one but I’ve had my fair share of troubles and problems and I can only hope my nephew doesn’t has to go through all that:

1.) When you’re the younger one, you’re practically the servant of the elder siblings- believe me, I’ve been through it.

2.) The classic cliche “Learn from your brother/sister ..”

3.) You’re often deemed as the ‘rat’ of the family.

4.) When in school, teachers look at you as the little brother/sister of your ‘GLORIFIED BIG ELDER BROTHER/SISTER’ who most of the time got good grades so you’re expected to live up to that too.

5.) You’re always the reckless one. Even if you spill a drop of water, it’s like you brought a zombie apocalypse. “Oh My Goodness, you’re so careless! When will you learn? That’s an entire WATER DROPLET you spill there! Who’s responsible hun? Now what’re you looking at? Go ahead-wipe it off!”

6.) You always loose in bouts and WWE Battles at home.

7.) You’re mostly termed as too ‘young’ for some important task.

8.) Somehow you’re always responsible for any mishappening. Even if it’s found out later that you didn’t break the vase, by default the blame first comes on you.

9.) You are offered the sweaters and shirts your elder sibling overgrew. “You can use them, they’re still new!”

10.) You’re always teased by saying you were adopted or mentally retarded.

11.) You always get the back seat in the car.

12) And the most frustrating one, as if the above weren’t enough-your parents always listen to your elder sibling.

13.) The elder ones usually get the bigger slice of the pizza, don’t they?

14.) Even when you try to be a part of an elderly conversation, you’re mostly shunned by all- “Shut up, you’re too young for this.” 

15.) You CANNOT have the remote when you’re both watching t.v. You’ve to endure with the show your sibling’s watching. (In my case-Football. That’s why eventually I grew a fondness for it). 

But even though I wrote the above keeping in mind the things I faced (yes, I’ve been given a chokeslam by my elder brother) it’s undeniable to say that I’ve had several perks being the younger one too.

I wouldn’t give it away for the world (okay-maybe I would.)

To any younger sibling reading this, I know it’s a hard. *Gives a virtual high-five*

Up for a drink?

Right from the beginning when I was a little girl I’ve had an intense dislike for the people who drink excessively. You might think of me as ignorant or impractical or tag my views as unfair or biased but believe you me, I have my reasons.

Do I even have to take the time to name people who died at a very young age due to excessive alcohol intake? Not forgetting to mention their precious talents and abilities that were just beginning to blossom; died with them. I’m not stating my points based on statistical data fetched out of the internet; I have SEEN families destroyed due to one small (or rather huge) flaw in one member of the family-drinking.

Any man who has an addiction for drinking has a very dangerous hamartia I believe.

Let me enlighten you further, men and women both should be aware of the harm and the damage they can do by drinking. I’m going to be a little sexist here, but men can do more damage, which logically IS true.

When one consumes excessive alcohol, they lose control of their mind. People start abhorring the things around them. They become oblivious and prone to indignation. Men start channelizing their anger on their families or worse, themselves.

They indulge in abuse and violence. How can a man even live with the thought of hitting his own family? Would he force his strength upon them for something as trivial as ALCOHOL?
Oh and not forgetting to mention the glorifying image you set forth in front of your kids.
The brilliant movie BOYHOOD portrays efficiently the damage a ‘drink’ could do. Otherwise our protagonist teenager Mason wouldn’t have said, “And it sure would have saved me a parade of drunken assholes” for his ‘FATHERS’.

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When a person’s dependency on alcohol results in problems with interpersonal relationships, an inability to control alcohol consumption and a disregard of the damage that the alcohol is doing to the spouse and the family, the reality is that there is an issue of alcohol dependency.

Drinking too much can harm your health. Excessive alcohol use led to approximately 88,000 deaths and 2.5 million years of potential life lost (YPLL) each year in the United States from 2006 – 2010, shortening the lives of those who died by an average of 30 years
Source: http://www.cdc.gov/alcohol/fact-sheets/alcohol-use.htm

Unfortunately, consuming liquor is deemed as being ‘cool’ these days. It is more like a #trend. It was bad enough to see teenagers ruining their lives due to binge drinking; it is even worse to see them glorify it like it’s something to be proud of.

Apart from emotional problems drinking causes a parade of inevitable health problems like anxiety, depression, frustration, anger and even cancer.

People may put up a counter argument saying that a little consumption of alcohol is good for health. Okay-fair enough.

But my dear friend, IF YOU DON’T HAVE THE NERVES TO CONTROL YOUR INEBRIATED SELF then please .. don’t drink.  

The bottom line is, if you are an excessive drinker,

  • If you come home every night and beat your wife and then your kids and go to sleep and then repeat the entire process,
  • If you almost got yourself killed due to drunk driving,
  • If you’re almost on the line of poverty due to inefficiency and unemployment,
  • If you’re flunking every subject at school and almost got a girl pregnant and most probably won’t be accumulating the grades for college,

and lastly,

  • If you’ve already done the above and now look back with remorse then I have one small request for you-

QUIT IT. STAY AWAY FROM IT.

It is better to devoid yourself of a single pleasure than to watch your entire world collapse in front of your eyes because of it.

Do it for your family, do it for your friends, do it for your colleagues, but most importantly-do it for Yourself.

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Premio Dardos

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I’m a terrible person. I’m the most obnoxiously horrendous person you’ll ever meet. I might just throw myself down a cliff. I’m so sorry Ruchi I forgot about this award you nominated me for some time back. I’m really sorry, I mean I THOUGHT I’d do it later but the ignod that I am, I forgot. Again, I’m so sorry.

So, keeping the self-loathing and the guilt aside,

Thank you to the wonderful author Ruchi of the more than wonderful blog  https://cometravelalong.wordpress.com/ . If you’re looking to have some travel adventures from the eyes of an intrigued Indian, this is your place to go to. And as I always say in every award post, to some people these awards might seem like a futile activity and you may as well shadow them in your ignorance; your choice.

But if you choose to revamp your point of view, one must look at these as a frequent ‘pat on your backs’ and a very modest and polite way to let you know you’re on the right path. These little things help give us a little push we require if we drag ourselves on the road.
They are a resurgence for those who’re a little lost and a motivation to those who’re already doing well.
So this one goes to all the awards out there.

Dear Awards,
Don’t be disheartened, there are some people who care about you. 😛
Love,
Aakansha.

About this Award and Rules:

dardosAnd here are the people I choose to nominate, if not necessarily 15 they all are incredibly kind and talented.

Deeksha from http://undertheblazingsun.wordpress.com – She’s a beginner, so help her by visiting and giving a feedback. 🙂

Jithin from http://trablogger.wordpress.com He’s not a beginner but he’s a good guy with one of the best travel pictures I’ve seen.

Allie from http://wearenewromantics.wordpress.com. She has a very interesting blog, check her out.

Pratyush from http://englishphilia.wordpress.com. Also someone who’s beginning to explore the possibilities in WordPress, give your cooperation.

Veronica from http://kikalavil.wordpress.com. A nice blog post to read. Do visit her.

Anonymous from https://justmostgirls.wordpress.com/ This 15 year old has some very fascinating and amusing views! One blog you HAVE to check out!

Brian from http://vancouvervisions.com/  A very kind, fresh and inspiring blog.

Anonymous from http://albiontoamerica.wordpress.com. A view of America from the eyes of a British Citizen. Check out this blog.

Anonymous from http://tastehitch.wordpress.com. Again some rather amusing tales of Bankok from the eyes of a Brit!

Upen from http://voiceurmind.wordpress.com. Skillful uses of rhymes and lyrics and words. You’ll enjoy this blog.

Anna from http://www.olivevienna.wordpress.com She’s a beautiful and a brilliant writer. I have enjoyed all her posts!

Kassie from http://kassafrass.com. Undoubtedly, one of my favorite blogs on wordpress and one of my favorite persons! 🙂

Anonymous from http://graypoet.wordpress.com. THE BEST poetry blog I’ve come across. THE BEST.

From what I noticed; so many people in my Followers and Follow list  have never interacted or communicated with me or my posts. They have somehow preferred being a silent observer. I appreciate your decision but it’s sort of sad to see so many people who chose to read my posts but have never given me their thoughts and opinions.
Blogging is a community. A place where we interact and share our views and thoughts and ramblings. Every kind of a person and every kind of a thought is welcomed and encouraged and appreciated. Fell free to communicate and always believe that no matter what you write we’d understand and encourage!

Whether or not you choose to accept and do the formalities of this award is your decision, but I’d request each one of you nominated to do it and give everyone a chance. 

Thank you so much to each one of you who’s been a part of my blogging journey. It’s been a spectacular odyssey!