Why Modesty Matters

Honestly, this is the longest I’ve been away from my blog and I feel awful. I’ve lost touch with so many  bloggers and I can’t even calibrate how to catch up. I promise I’ll make it up to all of you.

Those who’ve been following this blog for long know why exactly I’ve decided to emerge out of the grey solitude I love so much. Yes, an issue is troubling me and I won’t be at peace until I’ve written about it. So bear with me, please?


Those who are fond of standing behind the scenes and just plainly observing people and the massive rate at which we are morally declining would agree when I say that out of all the virtues that humans have so recklessly decided to abandon, one remains on the precipice of absolute extinction- modesty. 

Whether it’s people’s instagram posts, or their facebook check-ins, or just the way they talk and express themselves, I’ve more than often observed this abominable hint of excessive pride in their disposition. Maybe partly it’s the fault of those widely shared images of ‘Love yourself f*ck the rest’ people seem to follow religiously.

But seriously, I feel awful. Truly sad, disgusted and really really pained every time I sense this dark cloud of conceit and vanity looming over people in their 20s who have, if I may be so bold to claim, achieved absolutely NOTHING so far, are living off their parents’ income, fritter away the resources they are provided with and somehow due to some false sense of pride, consider themselves to be doing a favor to the world by existing.

Where did humbleness go? What about being modest? Where is humility?

Everybody I meet these days has this absurd stand-offish air that I fail to make any sense of. It’s like everyone believes themselves to be the messiah. They are the best. They don’t need valuable advice from people who have much more experience than them. They are the ‘star.’ All these titles are self proclaimed, if I may add. 

I’m not saying self-love isn’t important. Of course it is! But don’t you agree that too much self obsession is harmful? Don’t you think, that if you consider yourself to be the master of everything, you’re leaving no space for growth? How will you learn if you’re not even willing to accept that you NEED to learn? How is being meretricious of any use?

And to make matters worse, it’s often the dumbest people who are the most confident about themselves. This sounds incredibly rude, but these are not my words. I’m merely resonating what Bertrand Russell said, The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, but wiser people so full of doubts.’

It’s like after you reach a certain age, majority of your conversations have to revolve around, ‘how great you are doing’, ‘how much wealth you’ve accumulated,’ ‘how many countries you’ve traveled,’ ‘how hot & rich is the person you’re dating’ , ‘how happy you are and how badly you want to tell this to the world’ ‘who’s job is fancier’..


May I just appeal to anyone reading this to please, please be humble. Even if you’ve been blessed with fortune that you played no part in earning, or life has been enormously kind to you or maybe, in an exceptional case you have achieved everything on the dint of your hard work still, please be humble. Be kind. Be open to new ideas. Don’t close your doors to improvement, growth or advice. Don’t be condescending. Don’t be rude.

Everyone faces different storms of life. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Stay kind.

Love always,

your blogger .

Note- Sorry this turned out to be a rather long and angry rant, if you managed to read it this far I have a gift for you. Here is one of my favorite songs from the band ‘Chairlift.‘ Hope you like it. 🙂

Chairlift- Met Before

16 thoughts on “Why Modesty Matters

  1. First-great to see you again, truly! Your posts are always so well articulated. I had been wondering where you were but sometimes breaks are good and healthy. As to the post itself though I’ve moved past those years myself, I have certainly observed that type of behavior myself. You are correct however in your last paragraph, and I’ve said the same type of thing on posts of mine too. We are getting to be meaner, and short tempered, and aggressive in our interactions with people. It bothers me that people pass themselves off as experts with little to back it up. Thats my little rant, so sorry to hijack your post! But really happy to see you back again!

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    • Hi Robert.
      I’m glad I was missed by someone on the blog. It’s not exactly a break but I’ve been too busy this year to concentrate on writing. And unfortunately, this is going to continue for a while.

      But I absolutely loved how you put it. We’re getting meaner and more aggressive in our approach. I don’t understand why this is happening because this behavior has risen recently, as far as I can understand.

      There is no such thing as hijacking Robert, I love to hear what people have to say. 🙂
      Thank you for reading, like always.

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      • Ah understood on the absence, but I hope you find a way to get back to it somehow.You have always left such wonderful comments to me, so yes-you have been missed! I could go on a separate rant about the reasons why I think we have gotten meaner but I’ll save it. Unfortunately it is true, which is why WordPress has been a bit of a savior for me in finding people who still think, and want to have genuine conversations, and not just angry rantings. Stay well, and do stay in touch! 🙂

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  2. Welcome back, it’s good to see you posting again! Honestly I’m stand-offish myself but it’s because I’m awkward and I like my space, not because I see myself as being the best!

    I totally agree that we all need to be more humble and allow others into our lives without being mean or arrogant. It would certainly make the US election a lot better if the candidates took your advice! 😛

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    • Personal space is important of course! But I’m sure that the want for personal space doesn’t make you stand-offish, it’s a necessity of life!

      As for the U.S elections, I would be incredibly happy if I can contribute in some way, although from the things I read on the internet, the situation is far more worse. 😛


  3. Great Thinking. We are loosing respect for each other and in the process becoming complete A******s. I hate when people say SPEAK YOUR MIND even at the cost of disrespecting someone. We need more people like you . Hope someone realizes that what they are doing is wrong. I certainly did.

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  4. That’s a pretty good job of explaining the reason for what I mentioned to you in my last comment, and also a fine piece of writing, well worth reading. It’s good to see you exercising your muse again (mine fled after I wrote one too many angry comments about that US election someone else mentioned above – I’m hoping she returns now that I’ve enjoyed enough solitude that I’m back under control). Anyway, I’ll be keeping my eye out here for new entries, and until then, take care and stay safe.

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  5. I humbly welcome you back to blogging. It’s so funny because I was thinking about you a lot and that I ought to look in on Aak and then when I re-read my blog post for yesterday, there was a comment from you! How cool was that?? Do you think there’s something in the universe that makes this sort of thing happen? A sort of karma type thing? 🙂

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  6. Great advice. No matter where I go or what I do, my mind is still open to new things and ideas even while I’m in my 30s. I’ve worked hard for everything around me and continue to do so and these actions build character. Makes a person humble and sometimes those that don’t have to do that, lack that feeling. I’m with you though. I hope they can find humbleness in their heart somehow,someway.

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