How do you escape the labyrinth?

A long time back I read a book by John Green called ‘Looking For Alaska.”

And I even wrote this blog post approximately a year back, but I somehow felt it should be posted again.

“He was shaken by the overwhelming revelation that the headlong race between his misfortunes and his dreams was at that moment reaching the finish line. The rest was darkness, ‘Damn it,’ he sighed. ‘How will I ever get out of this labyrinth!” 
― Gabriel Garcí­a MárquezThe General in His Labyrinth

This quote is presented by one of the protagonists in the book around whom the story revolves, Alaska Young. Throughout the book at various intervals, the absolutely admirable author, John Green has raised the above  question, but not answered it.

As if giving his readers plenty of chances to figure it out for themselves. But each time (as in my case) you’re averted in a more darker tunnel of intrigue and fascination. The more I tried to figure it out, the more confused I became. I happened to find myself diving into this ocean of reverie, from where I almost find it impossible to escape.

So what is the way out of this Labyrinth of Suffering?
How do we get out of this maze?

Death, my friend is certainly not the answer.

“The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering  is to forgive.”

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I’ve never believed in forgiveness. It might sound harsh and very stubborn of me but second chances are not my cup of tea. It’s rather unfortunate of me to think that people are never sorry for their actions, they’re usually sorry that they got caught.

But again, it’s completely up to your own sweet discretion whether or not you choose to forgive someone who you think deserves a second chance.

But more importantly, the quote also implies on learning to forgive yourself. Sometimes you get so caught up in this cobweb that you forget that you’re allowed to make mistakes too. And out of all the people in the world the one person whose forgiveness you need the most is yourself. You cannot afford to brood over and punish yourself for every mistake you made. Because if you don’t absolve yourself from any of your blunder, it’s going to slowly and slowly eat you up and somehow that guilt will always trouble you.

So forgive your soul and free yourself from the shackles. So that when you approach the epilogue of your life, you have one hell of a speech to make. Learn to love every flaw within you. We’re humans, we’re designed to make mistakes and then learn from them.

But the wisdom lies in forgiveness and moving on and sparing yourself the pain and self-loathing. Because it is only when you forgive, you open the doors to the escape from this maze.  This is what Mr. Green tried to infer.

“There are so many of us who will have to live with things done and things left undone. Things that did not go right, things that seemed okay at the time because we could not see the future. If only we could see the endless string of consequences that result from our smallest actions.”

-John Green.

Beneath Your Beautiful

Honestly, it all began like this.

Esh- Can you please elaborate on your status?
Me: *Gives a 2786 page long explanation*
Esh: OH MY GOD. This is so true!
Me: Yep, one of my favorite quotes.
Esh: This is one story common to everyone. Actually, this should be your next article maybe. 🙂
Me: That’s a great idea! Thanks.  :*
Esh: And you’ve already written the introduction above. :’)
Me: Haha, indeed! 😉

So this was a conversation I had with the purest form of awesomeness and my very good bud called Esh (the first three letters to her name) 😛 around a month back. And as much as I’m terribly sorry I’d like to confess that I forgot writing about this very interesting topic. She happened to remind me again last night (told you she’s awesome).

My WhatsApp status went something like this:

“Having perfected our disguise; we spend our life searching for someone we don’t fool.”

And it ignited the curiosity of several intrigued souls to the extent of texting and asking me about it.

I fell in love with this quote the day I read. I can say this with all my heart that each one of us has gone through this or is still going through this scenario. Frankly, when I come across these situations; finding millions of people to have gone through or are still bravely going through any emotional setback, it sends goosebumps down my spine. How can everyone feel the same thing? Even without knowing each other.

I read these quotes on the internet ‘Just be yourself’, ‘Love you for who you are’, ‘Never change for what people think is right’. And it leaves me in utter bewilderment that it is one thing to be frequently reminded that one is beautiful as a sign of affection but it is entirely another thing to loathe yourself so much that you cling on hopelessly to these quotes; screenshot them and stare at them the whole day. You don’t need the frigging internet to tell you that you’re beautiful.

The above quote is ‘Society’ conjured up in one line. The world has so adequately forced us to ‘act’ according to its rigid norms of how we should be. Speaking in a prosaic way, we tend to mould ourselves according to the society that has these firm shackles to confine us into its various norms; those of HOW a girl should dress up, WHAT would make her desirable, WHAT are the basic standards for a boy to be called a Man.

So in order to ‘blend in’ we make masks. Masquerades to make people like us. Disguises to be like them and we cannot escape it, the world is so brutal it won’t spare any of us. We spend years to learn how we have to behave- happier, devoid of flaws and spend nights understanding how these rules work out. Society keeps on juggling us between its cold, frigid paws while we construct those masks; forging them out of insecurities and fear of not being ‘accepted’.

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Trying to be like everyone else. Trying to ‘fit-in’. We’re so afraid to be our self; afraid that the people won’t like us. We’re insecure so much that we give up and decide to join the herd.

So having found no possible escape we cling on to our faker self and spend our life desperately hoping to find someone who looks through that mask, someone who doesn’t get fooled and sees the person we really are behind it. Our flawed imperfect selves that we find so hard to accept and come in terms with. And when we find that one person, we feel revealed. We feel we’ve been understood and we’re not afraid to be ourselves in front of him. We feel raw and at peace.

It maybe anyone-Best Friend, Boy/Girl-Friend. Soul-mate. Analogically speaking, this quote is a vivid way to portray the idea of finding ‘The One’ in a society as brutal as this.

So after having build a ‘perfect disguise’ we hover around trying to find someone who looks into our soul directly. Who has the power to reignite the suppressed flame that is our personality and as you all might have read it on the ‘Internet’ :

“Find someone who accepts you for who you are”

but the good thing about this fallacy is, when that person finally enters your life; nothing ever feels more beautiful, more perfect and more cherubic. So when you find that person who can tear the ‘mask’ away and see through YOU and the pure beauty of your existence. Someone who ‘sees beneath your beautiful’ ; all that cover you took years to master, when he finally shatters it, hold on to him.

 

Esh, I know you’re reading this. 😀 High5!! 😀